at them being selected or they being selected
This always confuses me. Which is the right form of usage- " I am upset at them being selected for the match " or " I am upset at they being selected for the match" ? In the similar context can we use me being or my being?
'They' would be incorrect. 'Them' would be the object of the preposition 'at', and this form would say that you are upset at them. Your second question brings up a difference.
I am upset at them being selected.
I am upset at their being selected. This would be the better choice. 'Being' is now a gerund, and the object of the preposition is the gerund phrase 'their being selected'. It's the selection that is bothering you, not necessarily the people who were selected. This makes your 'upsetness' directed at the people who did the selection.
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