under what circumstances would one use the phrase "relate to" versus "relate with"


Are there times when either phrase ("relate to" or "relate with") would apply and what are the grammar guidelines?

asked Sep 09 '12 at 22:10 christine tandon New member

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This is a hard question to answer.


I can hear someone saying, "I can relate with that."  But with is not actually the correct word.  I can't think of an example where relate with is appropriately used.


The reason is not because of a grammar rule.  It's much the same as when someone used can instead of may.  The two words don't mean the same thing. 

link comment answered Sep 10 '12 at 03:33 Patty T Grammarly Fellow

You should use "relate with" if you are referring to something - an instrument or a tool - or somehow - an adverb - used in the process of relating. That is, only when using the word "relate" in its first meaning: to narrate. As in:


Susan's story was related with gusto.


If you mean any of relate's other meanings, such as a relationship ("We pretended we weren't related to uncle Jimmy."), to indicate a connection ("The head office believes creativity is directly related to production."), or to sympathise ("The mob related to the speaker's anti-establishment ideas.") always use "to."

link answered Sep 14 '12 at 02:50 mysticete Contributor

slightly odd that I have just posted this and the server believes it to have been written 23 hours ago.

mysticeteSep 14 '12 at 02:51

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